Jasmine Nicole

If you’ve been following my blog, then you know that I am sort of dating or have been dating. So I am just pretty interested in the aspects of dating/love/sex during this time and I randomly did a quick Twitter search on the topic of sex on the first date. It was an interesting topic of conversation. If you’re interested in more, obviously, search ‘sex on the first date’ in the Twitter search bar, and go crazy.

As expected, there were mixed reviews. There was slut shaming, no surprise, there were people who said they did it and went on to have successful relationships (there were multiple claims saying that statistically, the success rate for a relationship where two people have sex on the first date is pretty high), there were people who said do whatever you want, some saying you gotta wait 90 days, and just tons of other opinions about it.

So, my questions to YOU are, do you have sex on the first date? Would you have sex on the first date? Are there specific factors that would sway you either way? What’s your overall take on first date sex? What do you consider the first date?

Let’s start with that last question because I noticed one of the underlining topics of the conversation on Twitter was, how can you have sex with someone you don’t know? Hmm, great point, but just because it’s the first date doesn’t mean that two people don’t know each other. Not all first dates are created equal. Yes, a first date could be a blind date, but it also could be between two life long friends who decided that they have had feelings for each other for quite some time and are now dipping into a romantic relationship. It could be a long distance couple or a couple that have been talking for months online or on the phone and finally get to meet in person. So, just because someone has sex with some on the first date doesn’t mean that that don’t know each other. Now that that’s out of the way, let’s move on.

I personally believe that anything is possible when it involves two consenting adults. That’s honestly the only thing that matters. THE ONLY THING.

Now of course, there are risks when it comes to sex. There is the possibility of someone getting pregnancy, contracting STDs, STIs, and COVID, people getting their feelings hurts, and other emotional consequences. But, on a more serious note, those aforementioned things are real and risky with ANY sexual encounter whether it’s the first date, third date, 90 days in, or 7 years into a marriage. And YES, I said STDs and STIs are possible to get when you’re in a marriage, and that’s all I’ll say. But, if you are a person who is down for having sex on the first date and does it often, be safe. Get tested often, use condoms, and don’t be afraid to have the, “have you been tested” conversation. I know that conversation is taboo (remind me again why?), but it has to be had with any and every person you lay down with. You’re not asking to embarrass them, but asking to save your own ass, and your other private parts. Just be smart about it. Do whatever you want and do whomever you want, when you want, as long as it makes you happy.